Which Gilmore Girl Are You Now?


As you well know, Gilmore Girls first aired in 2000. Watchers who were then Rory’s fresh-faced 16 years of age would now be older than the 32-year old Lorelai who faced Headmaster Charleston in the get-up above.  Man, you can feel Emily rolling her eyes from space.

My friend Jack reads The Lord of the Rings every few years and finds different parts affect him with each read, because he’s changed over time. Which led me to wondering (drum roll please):

Did you previously identify with Rory but now think of yourself more like Lorelai?

It’s a bit of a nonsense question since Rory didn’t become Lorelai, she became older Rory. And I think this is where a lot of Rory-related fury about the new episodes comes from, because those who identified with Rory wanted to see her succeed or at least do more than stall.

I’ve talked before about Rory’s stalled trajectory being necessary in order to get to The Last Four Words but perhaps her course was set long before A Year In The Life. Clearly she would never become Lorelai because they were completely different people with very different characters. Compare young book-smart Rory with young feisty Lorelai.

Also, Rory rarely had to fight for what she wanted. In fact, did she ever really know what she wanted, other than what Lorelai or the many other loving people around her wanted for her? It was Lorelai that put college into Rory’s head. It was the boys that lined up to throw themselves at her, rather than her actively pursuing any boy. Her only active decision that comes to mind was to steal the boat.

So as much as I love Rory and was so very proud of her on so many occasions, compared to Lorelai she might have been a teensy bit… boring? But again, that’s a nonsense question since Lorelai is the poster child for mania. Still. In the end, I think I’d rather have Rory over for game night but go out dancing with Lorelai.

Out of interest, did you previously identify with one character but now think of yourself more like the other, or a different character? I feel like I started out as Richard and now I’m grumpy black-cap Luke fast en route to Taylor Doose.
Looking back at Lorelai’s eye-catching Chilton get-up, I’m reminded of our Gilmore Girls Cosplay Competition.  Which Gilmore Girls character would you dress up like today? I’m feeling a bit of Kirk, recognizable by the caged swans.
Do parts of the show resonate differently as you’ve gotten older?
Do you think Rory ever really knew what she wanted?



Rich originally began contributing to GIlmore News as 'Dairyman' in 2013, a reference to the character Dairyman Dick in Tess of the D'Urbervilles, (call me Rich). Here in the UK we were late to the Gilmore party and I don't remember what made me watch my first episode - the one where Lorelai picks Rory up from the police station after she and Logan steal a yacht - but I remember watching it again immediately. And then again. Thankfully, the next show was on the next day and I watched that one three times too. And then the boat one again. I couldn't believe the dialogue was so quick and so funny and I pretended to myself that I was only watching it so I could figure out who I was more keen on - the mom or the daughter. I swore that Aaron Sorkin must have been involved but I couldn't find his name attached anywhere, even on the internet. So I watched and loved and laughed and cried and the day after the series finale, they ran the entire show from the beginning again and Rory turned into a baby so then I was all about Lorelai. Lauren Graham is astonishing ("Mother: Breathtaking") and the show was - and is - lightning in a bottle. It's a treasure for those who watch and get swept up in it, like I did and like the readers of Gilmore News. It's heartbreak and chicken soup, family dysfunction and blind optimism, lighthearted romanticism and balls-out brilliant. Thanks to Arieanna and gilmorenews.com for letting me squat and allowing my inner Gilmore Geek out for air. I worry how it would otherwise manifest.

6 thoughts on “Which Gilmore Girl Are You Now?

  • November 19, 2017 at 3:11 am

    Hi Rich-

    A few quick thoughts [I’m sure I’ll be back for more later]-

    Didn’t identify with either Lorelai but was favorably reminded by them when remebering my parents cooler friends or my classroom contemporaries so viewing the Girls for an hour was like a blast from the past-

    Don’t dress like any of the characters but could be argued that I was/still am wearing the jeans/flannel getup of Luke decades before the show premiered-

    Character I was/am similar to would be “early” Marty, the consistent useful friend who could help fill the social void until a BBD came along-

    I’ve always been a bit suspicious of people who absolutely know what they are going to do from an early age. I think most people figure out some combination of what interests them and what they believe they are good at to come to a conclusion of how to productively spend their time [i.e. reactors rather than planners]. Then they modify that view as their life unwinds and different opportunities materialize. Tend to think Rory fits that mold even with all her supposed planning–

    • November 27, 2017 at 12:21 pm

      Luke’s look is classic! Some people need fashion to be told what to wear but if you have style, there’s no need. Also why waste cycles figuring out to wear when there are far more important things to waste your time on.
      I think I fancy myself as Lorelai but actually I’m Rory, which is depressing. But that kind of works if you’re Marty.
      I am jealous of people who figure out what they want to do with their lives because you don’t end up wasting time. I’m still trying to find my thing and at this point it looks like finding my thing is the thing I’m going to end up doing my whole life. And we tend to regret the things we don’t do, rather than the things we do. Remaining open to opportunities is important.

  • December 12, 2017 at 9:08 pm

    In the last year I actually did something that qualifies as “pulling off a Lorelai”. My 23 year old Saturn finally rusted out a brake-lining which in the cold snowy Midwest amounts to a death knell for the car since the problem tends to never be truly fixed and leap-frogs across multiple spots till you cry uncle and dump the car. Immediately pulled up my local newspaper and low and behold there was its younger sibling at an on-sale price looking for a new owner. Within the week had switched out of my 1993 for essentially an identical 1998 Saturn in a manner much like Lorelai duplicating her beloved jeep—

    As for the life planners versus reactors concept discussed above, oftentimes the planners pick a high-profile field with very few spots at the top for the best of the best [such as Rory shooting for the NYT internship]. Nothing wrong with that in principal, but the ramifications of finding out the high level of quality competition can come as a shock and lead to quite a bit of bobbing and weaving to find an alternative path– Particularly true in athletics, the arts, and communication fields. I was lucky in that there was a little more room to find one’s niche in the physical sciences–

  • December 14, 2017 at 5:59 am

    I think the hard part is figuring what you might want to do in the first place. Like you say, if you can do something well and enjoy it, that may be enough. I do also think that even the worst job could be made great if the people you’re working with are great.

  • December 14, 2017 at 4:45 pm

    True enough, a mediocre job with great colleagues can be quite a gas for an extended time, at least as long as cash-flow neutrality prevails. And of course the opposite can also be true, a well paying interesting job with a hypercritical management team can be little more than premature burnout waiting for a time to happen when personnel is treated as little more than disposable parts.

  • December 21, 2017 at 11:16 am

    I think JD Walsh is more of a Lorelei.


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