Amy Sherman-Palladino Criticizes Our Focus on Rory’s Love Life

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The biggest thread in the revival of Gilmore Girls has been: #TeamDean, #TeamJess vs #TeamLogan. Truly, it’s the hottest topic of discussion. And Amy Sherman-Palladino doesn’t like it.

In an interview today with TIME, Amy Sherman-Palladino discusses this obsession with Rory’s boyfriends and how it takes away from how Rory was meant to be seen, as ambitious and strong and family-oriented:

It’s a small part of who Rory is. Rory didn’t spend her days thinking, “Who am I going to end up with?” Rory was much more concerned about “How do I get that interview at the New York Times?” It’s a natural thing: People love romance…

Sometimes I wish that the Dean and Jess thing weren’t so prominent because in the grand scheme of Rory’s life, who her boyfriend was when she was 16 years old is such a small event. I don’t begrudge people the excitement of Jess and Dean. But they were there to show Rory’s evolution as a character. She picked certain boys for her depending on who she was at that moment. It was part of her character. It was part of her development that Dean was her first boyfriend, that Jess was the boy that diverted her attention. Then she wound up with Logan, and God knows where she’s been since then.

Amy notes that she has personal affection for all three actors and characters and served their purpose in supporting the stories around Lorelai and Rory, noting that “Lorelai’s relationships, Rory’s relationships were a way for us to explore the mother-daughter relationship.”

The fact that people love them and are excited about them is great. It’s just such a small part of who Rory is. I don’t see people debating “What newspaper is Rory’s working for?” “Did she win a Pulitzer yet?” It’s all about Dean and Jess. Dean was 16 years old when they dated. Everybody should go back and think about their boyfriend at 16 and then reevaluate whether that should be the focus of the conversation.

And it’s true. Right now, nobody is commenting here wondering what kinds of stories Rory chased down or where she’s travelled to, we see only the focus on her relationships. And that’s why a small portion of people have been #TeamSomeoneElse for Rory, since Amy’s point is valid: would you go back to the relationships that defined who you were at 16?

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47 thoughts on “Amy Sherman-Palladino Criticizes Our Focus on Rory’s Love Life

  • November 2, 2016 at 8:59 pm
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    Well there you have it. It has been why I’ve been Team None-of-the-Above since the beginning. I do find it interesting that so many fans of the show miss its most major points.

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  • November 2, 2016 at 11:42 pm
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    While I’m on team Jess I know that this isn’t the major point of the show, I am excited to see how much Rory has written, where she’s been etc etc. I think if the three boys weren’t all coming back then it wouldn’t be a major topic of discussion.

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  • November 3, 2016 at 3:36 am
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    In my opininon,the show has always made a big deal out of Rory’s love life.It was her main storyline,besides her relatioship with her mother.It was a lot of relationship-drama,crying because of Dean/Jess/Logan, wandering between Dean/Jess,then Jess/Dean,then Dean/Logan,than Logan/Jess,with a little Tristan or Marty.Rory didn’t really made a big deal out of her career as a teen,because she knew exactly what she wanted to be-a journalist.The first big “not-boyfriend-related”problem of her was leaving Yale for a while-and even that had to do a lot with Logan.What I am saying is that we saw a lot of Rory’s love life and problems,but we got very little of her career-related worries.So it’s totally understandable that the fans are more obsesed with a thing,what made the 80% of Rory’s storyline,than her another side,which we hadn’t really got the chance to see.

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    • November 3, 2016 at 3:47 am
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      Your right. Im thinking the same way as you do. :-)

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    • November 3, 2016 at 4:49 am
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      I agree completely. I’ve never really worried about Rory’s future career since she’s always had her goals and stuck to them and I’ve always felt confident that arena of her life would end up okay. She ends the original series single, which makes total sense for where she is in her life at that time. But given that so much of the show was romance-driven for both her and Lorelai, of COURSE people are going to be interested to see the tying up of the romance loose end.

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      • November 3, 2016 at 8:29 am
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        I agree. The reason people aren’t asking the questions about her career is because we basically know from the trailer and clips where she is and what she’s doing. ASP confuses me sometimes. If you want people to have questions then you need to keep some mystery alive. The thing is, since Rory’s first day of Chilton, she has never diverted from “I’m going to be a Christanne Annampour.” (Sorry about the spelling, its pure guess work.) Not ONCE, did Rory ever consider an alternative career, not even when Mitchum told her she didn’t ‘have it,’ was an alternative career even discussed. Even Paris, confident of always being a doctor, considered alternatives such as being a lawyer. The only thing about Rory that isn’t resolved is her love life, so naturally it will be what people are the most curous about in Rory’s story.

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    • November 3, 2016 at 8:38 am
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      What you said. 100%.

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    • November 3, 2016 at 11:49 am
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      Boys are a big part of life when you’re 16 to 22!

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  • November 3, 2016 at 4:00 am
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    Oh please, like Rory could ever win a Pulitzer. She’s no Paige St. John. If Rory were a real person, she’d be in the shock of her life when she realizes that she’s not some special snowflake in the big bad world. At best maybe a decent blogger.

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  • November 3, 2016 at 4:23 am
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    I think people wonder about the relationship because it did seem like a big part of the story. I think we all realize it’s only a small part or her bigger life. But I never had any doubt that Rory would go do amazing things and do everything she every wanted. We know the story will tell what she has accomplished. The only mystery is who fit into her life and will continue to help her grow.

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  • November 3, 2016 at 4:57 am
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    Amy Sherman-Palladino we are discussing characters you created from a tv show that has been discontinued. Every writer/director/producer should be so lucky. We loved them so much we talked you into bringing them back- again everyone should be so lucky. :)
    I think that A LOT of women today grew up with Rory and experienced their first loves right along with her. A lot of us mothers had teens Rory’s age and watched her grow up along with our girls. Some of our girls are in college now, but they weren’t thinking about that when they stole their first box of corn starch! In other words, be glad we are talking about them at all, it’s all good!

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    • November 3, 2016 at 8:42 am
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      Corn starch haha, I love it!

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  • November 3, 2016 at 5:22 am
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    Frankly I was more into Lorelai, Luke and Sookies lives! I was also more entertained by Kirk. Luke and Lorelai kept me watching though. Love these two and all their dilemmas!

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  • November 3, 2016 at 5:33 am
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    She really needs to get over herself and be thankful people still care about her show. I know in our SJW, PC world right now men are bad so we should never want romance, but some of us still do.

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  • November 3, 2016 at 5:48 am
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    ……If Rory and Logan were really in love back then, they are still in love now…Logan cared more for her and was willing to change and grow up….., because of his relationship with Rory…he showed a lot of heart

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    • November 3, 2016 at 8:35 am
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      Were they really in love though? I was never sure Rory ever understood what true love really was. And I certainly don’t Logan ever showed a lot of heart. I found him very manipulative. Everything – except Rory being his official girlfriend, was always on his terms. I hated how Rory behaved with him. She never seemed herself. I would hate to go back the Rory she was when she was with him. I really struggled to like her and that hurt me because she was a character that I loved and essentially grew up with but she was a shadow of herself in the final two seasons.

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      • November 13, 2016 at 9:05 pm
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        Maybe you should watch the last two seasons again. Because I don’t know what the hell are you talking about

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  • November 3, 2016 at 6:41 am
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    I actually married my high school boyfriend… We’ll have been married for 16 years next month!! So yes, I’d go back to the relationships that defined me at 16! ;)

    I think the obsession with Rory’s relationships is a testament to our love of the secondary characters that ASP created, that we didn’t see nearly enough of, in the case of Jess anyways. ;)

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    • November 4, 2016 at 7:28 pm
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      I thought the same thing! My husband and I started dating when I was 19. We’ve been married almost 10 years. I have no issue with Rory going back to someone she dated as a teen!!

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  • November 3, 2016 at 7:53 am
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    I think the criticism is a bit unfair. We saw much more on the screen about Rory’s relationships than her ambitions. For every minute we saw dedicated to her career plans, we probably saw 20 minutes about her love life. So, it’s not surprising that people see that as a bigger part of the story, because the writers made it a bigger part of the story. And that’s perfectly consistent with the character IMO because for most people of high school / college age their love life is the biggest thing in their life, or at least they want it to be, no matter how smart or ambitious they are – that was certainly true for me. I’m sure ASP had certain goals with each character in her head when writing the show, but we can’t see that – all we can see is what goes on the screen, and what I saw on the screen was an honest portrayal of a somewhat spoiled girl that age struggling with learning about relationships, like we all had to do, and that’s compelling to a lot of people. I don’t think it diminished the notion that she was smart and ambitious in any way, Besides, she was in school for the entire series, so how much more could you really do story-wise with her going to class and working at the Yale paper than they did?

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  • November 3, 2016 at 8:17 am
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    I do not think it would have been such a big deal had they not told us that each of her old boyfriends is in the revival, AND (SPOILER) that she is ending up with one of them. I would not be so excited about it had they not given out that info.

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    • November 3, 2016 at 9:33 am
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      It’s definitely not confirmed by any measure that she’ll end up with either. I personally think all signs most likely point to her ending up single, on good (but non-romantic) terms with her exes.

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    • November 3, 2016 at 9:37 am
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      Is it a spoiler she’s gonna end up with one of them though? I don’t feel like anyone has said she’s gonna pick any of them just they are all back. Mostly I’ve just seen people writing articles or fans being excited about Rory ending up an old boyfriend with all of them coming back but really we don’t have any clue what Amy will do…unless I missed something where someone on the show actually said she ends up with one of them if so then sorry. :) Really I think we don’t know what’s for sure to come and that’s exciting too

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  • November 3, 2016 at 8:38 am
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    I am more interested in Luke and Lorelai’s storyline than Rory’s, but in the grand picture, this life isn’t about a title or where you worked. I’m sure lots of people disagree, but life is about loving God and loving the people He made. It’s about family and community. People are more interested in love because it’s far more important than any job you could ever have.

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  • November 3, 2016 at 8:40 am
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    p.s. I married my high school crush, too. :)

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  • November 3, 2016 at 8:47 am
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    “the Dean and Jess thing”, “the excitement of Dean and Jess”, “it’s all about Dean and Jess”.

    So… not to read too much into this, but… any particular reason why she’s talking about those two, and only adding Logan as an after-thought? Is it because she put Rory with Logan, or is it because he rates even less with her than he does with, say, me? Is it because he’s the winner, or because he’s not even a contender?

    Either way, I really have to say I dislike her take on Jess in the above quotes. I know she made him, but… that’s really not how I see him, at all.

    Sad, really, because I’m taking this as pretty much confirmation that it isn’t Jess after all, that she ends up with.

    And, yes, that’s what interests me. Rory’s AND Lorelai’s respective love stories. And I would care about it if they were guys, so it’s not even a feminist issue.

    I like the romance angle.

    Sue me.

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    • November 3, 2016 at 11:58 am
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      I agree!! I mean who’s even talking about Dean? lol. Why didn’t she complain about fans loving Logan?
      And I agree with everyone else, 80% of Rory’s screen time was devoted to her being with a boy or talking about them. Her career aspirarions were really just a topic of conversation. Even the complexities of a mother-daughter relationship were dealt more from the Lorelai point of view with Emily than from Rory’s. So sorry, we do want to see their happy, romantic endings. Team Logan, ha!

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    • November 3, 2016 at 12:05 pm
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      Actually, if IMDB is correct it kind of favors Logan. Matt Czuchry is in all 4 eps, Milo Ventamiglia is in 3, and Jared Padalecki is only in 1.

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      • November 3, 2016 at 10:42 pm
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        Yeah, I did the math over IMDB the minute it came out.

        Pity.

        I’d rather she be with anyone else, or even alone at the end of it, than with Logan… but I guess I don’t write the thing.

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      • November 4, 2016 at 9:27 am
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        Even though IMDb states that Matt is in 4 episodes that isn’t official.

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  • November 3, 2016 at 9:22 am
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    When WATCHING the show, I don’t care more about Rory’s (or Lorelai’s) love life than the other parts – I care about it the same as ALL the relationships – friendships, familial stuff – relationships of all sorts were literally what this show was built upon. But of course all of those friendships and family relationships already ended in a place that felt very satisfying to me – so I’m not waiting in suspense to see how they’re revisited. Whereas both Lorelai and Rory’s romantic arcs felt like they did not come to a satisfactory conclusion – we already pretty much know where Lorelai’s will go in the revival, but since all of Rory’s exes are back and at least two of them still very much feel like possibilities, and people have VERY different opinions on who it should be – of COURSE that’s what I’m debating/thinking about. Doesn’t mean I enjoy the romantic storylines more, or that it’s the only reason I’m watching the new episodes (quite the contrary) – but it’s the only real major storyline that we genuinely don’t know how it will end.

    In terms of her career – I feel like their career trajectories were always secondary. The relationships were always the heart of the show, and the school/job stuff was there to move plot mostly. It was rarely the source of drama. If Amy wants to focus more on Rory’s career in the revival then great! I’m excited to see it. But at this point at least, there really isn’t anything to ‘debate’ about it?

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  • November 3, 2016 at 9:28 am
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    As much as I love Rory with Jess don’t get me wrong I see his faults when they dated he was an angry teen when they dated but I loved the character he grew to be and I’ll be excited to see what he’s been up to in the revival. But I will say as much as I loved them together and always wanted it I still kinda want and wish to see Rory single in this revival traveling the world and doing the journalist work she loves. I mean she always wanted to be Christianne Amanpour traveling the world being an oversea corespondent. As much I’m a sucker for a good love story I’m also excited to see Rory without a guy because she has always been with a guy I wanna see her doing her own thing a bit like we saw Lorelai do at time. I think the line we have to take from that the most is when Amy said Rory choosing a guy at the time depending who she is at that moment in her life I feel like that’s a big statement that we don’t know where Rory is totally so we can’t really know what to expect since from what we’ve seen Rory doesn’t even know where she’s going at the moment. At least that’s my thoughts.

    Really I just more want Luke and Lorelai to have a wedding already and get married.

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  • November 3, 2016 at 11:06 am
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    i think part of the reason people are so invested in Rory’s relationships is that first of all, there is a mystery. i think it’s pretty safe to assume that in the end, Lorelai will end up with Luke. that has felt clear to me from the very first scene on the whole show (even if it wasn’t the plan at the beginning, it has felt like the plan for most of the show). with Rory, it’s always been more of a mystery.

    i myself am team no-one, i like that she ended up single in her early 20s when the show originally ended, and i am not very interested in the love life aspect of her life in the 4 upcoming movies. however, the second reason why i think people care so much is that all three love interests were great, fully fleshed out characters of their own. most of them had storylines that didn’t involve Rory, like Jess and his complicated relationship with his mother and Luke, Logan and his also complicated relationship with his parents and his business endevors (sure, these plot lines played into their relationships with Rory, but they were still about the guys, not Rory).

    so when we are invested in these relationships, we are not just invested in Rory’s life, but the lives of Dean, Jess and Logan. because all three are great characters of their own! we care about how all of the characters end up! i might not want Rory to end up with any of them, but i hope great things for all three ex-boyfriends. in my mind, before it was announced we’d get more episodes, Dean would be married again, this time happily, and he and his wife would have kids and be living a nice family life. Jess would be living a kind of artistic drifter life as a writer, and also be in good terms with his mother and Luke. Logan would have found success without his father, because he is smart and cabable and not just some rich kid who got everything handed to him. so yeah, i hope all three guys will find happiness in the revival, and most importantly that Rory will too. no matter who anyone ends up with! and Amy should appreciate it more that we care so damn much about made up people she created!

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  • November 3, 2016 at 11:14 am
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    I agree with Amy that there’s too much of an obsession with boyfriend drama. But I also think she was partly responsible for that. And I also agree with many people that Rory sans Lorelai and boyfriends is an incredibly bland character.

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  • November 3, 2016 at 11:46 am
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    I’m much more interested in Luke & Lorelai, but probably because I’m closer in age to them. But to ASP’s point about “would you go back to the relationships that defined who you were at 16?” I know it’s not true for everyone, but I got back together with my 16yr old boyfriend at a number of points in my life (I guess he was my Christopher except we didn’t get pregnant, thank God). As for Rory, I’d be happy to see her with Logan, or Jess or somebody new, but not with Dean.

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  • November 3, 2016 at 12:15 pm
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    A couple of weird things here. And the first one made me cross because it seems so dishonest.

    – Dean and Jess? Really? Dean? Is that a mistype? Why doesn’t it say Logan and Jess? I’ve seen almost nothing about Dean or TeamDean anywhere. It’s TeamLogan and TeamJess that have been slugging it out. I totally agree with Ginny – is this because Amy has put Rory with Logan so wants to suggest that she was so much more mature then than “back” in her Dean or Jess days? (Answer: actually, I thought she was more mature during Chilton than her university days – about almost everything not just relationships – and I also thought that’s true of a number of people in real life!)

    – Again, as lots of people have said… Rory’s career plans were settled at the end of Gilmore Girls and her relationship plans were not. That’s a big part of why the latter has the interest. Also, people haven’t had the same debates about Lorelai’s love life, because by the end Christopher was out and Luke was creeping back in.

    My gut reaction is that this feel manufactured (sorry Amy, but you do). Because, no-one that I’ve seen is going on about TeamDean. At all. Anywhere. Which, I guess, means that it’s being aimed at TeamJess in preparation for Rory-Logan. In which case, I’d rather than Amy just said that she went with Logan rather than pretending that TeamDean and TeamJess were somehow equally vocal.

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  • November 3, 2016 at 12:29 pm
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    “Right now, no one is talking about her career….” True enough, though in the past while we were waiting to see if the powers that be would bring back the show, it was at times an integral part of a[minimally seen and read] discussion. See the last thread from February 2013 to see what I mean where this topic was hid in plain sight!!

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  • November 3, 2016 at 7:22 pm
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    I have been thinking about how much criticism there will be when the new episodes come out. Gilmore fans are quite opinionated. I did NOT expect the criticism to begin with AMY, before the episodes even air. Geez…

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    • November 4, 2016 at 10:31 am
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      I’m sure there will be plenty of criticism when the episodes come out too. Also, what bugs different people varies – I’m much more annoyed by people expressing what I think are inconsistent opinions than watching a show that doesn’t match my expectations. Just as you feel that criticizing the views of the creator is much more shocking that criticizing the show she has made.

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  • November 4, 2016 at 3:46 am
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    One more thing. ” Rory’s relationships were a way for us to explore the mother-daughter relationship.” I didn’t feel that way watching her dating any of her boyfriend and I think it is natural.Yes,we could see that how cool Lorelai is when it comes to boys and dating,but all the other aspects are about Rory and her boyfriend,not some mother-daughter drama.

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  • November 4, 2016 at 8:11 am
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    Too bad the reaction of Amy because it is evident that the love life makes a big part of the show as her mother. Personally I find it a bit silly that it would only end up Rori pale copy of the end of saison7. And for my part I find 100 times that she would go places with Logan démontre.Ceci the lot is just my opinion

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  • November 4, 2016 at 9:53 am
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    I am of the belief that she will end up with Jess or Logan. My bet is on Logan. It won’t be a wedding or a marriage proposal but a scene or two where they decide to give it a go.

    I disagree that a person can’t reconnect with an old boyfriend and rekindle their relationship. It’s not the most common thing in the world but it does happen and is not such a stretch as to be implausible. Most of my friends married their college or high school boyfriends (it’s pretty common in the south) so it’s unfair to suggest that if you have, then you didn’t really explore life or to suggest if you did go back and start again with an old flame that you’re regressing instead of progressing. People change. Rory meeting up with Logan after 10 years would be like two familial strangers meeting again for the first time. They can easily get to know the mature version of each other and fall in love. (Same with Jess.)

    All this being said, I think people are blowing this interview out of proportion. I believe ASP is saying she understands why fans are inclined to want to know about Rory’s love live but in retrospect she wouldn’t have focused so much on Jess and Dean because they were part of Rory’s life in high school and to be debating their merits so profusely after all this time, even though Rory has grown and developed into a completely different person seems odd to her. I think that is a fair statement but has no bearing on how this will play out in the revival because she did admit in other interviews that she did bring those boys back for the fans and knows it’s what we want to see, even though she may not agree with it.

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  • November 4, 2016 at 2:03 pm
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    LOL, it’s Amy who did such a bad job of writing Rory as an independent character. In college she literally made no friends, only hung around Logan’s crew and Paris, whom she knew from high school. At least the S7 writers attempted to correct this with Lucy and Olivia.

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  • November 6, 2016 at 9:40 am
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    I still think that would mielleur boyfriend Logan. I have found that it brought a lot to each start autre.Pour Dean was her first boyfriend first love if I say little but I doubt this is true love then Rory is soon annoyed with Dean and this is comes in dark brown mysterious and rebellious but they were not on the same wavelength Rory loves his city and all its traditions all that hate him. Logan arrives at repartee which not fall under its direct charm though not in any case it shows him and he distributed the .Tout as she does not hesitate to tell her what she thinks of him something he auquelle is not used because all the girls before pames lui.Ensuite it has always been there for her even in the worst moment as hospitalistaion the grandfather Rory.Elle could yield to the advances of Jess when she was angry Logan against him but said word for word she was in love in spite of everything Logan. But one thing I did not understand in the penultimate episode we voi tried the ring while she made her cards she smiled but she refuses his application the better of a side which allows us to have a sequel .but it’s true I’d be disappointed if it ended with another. Another disappointment v

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  • November 29, 2016 at 12:35 pm
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    I AM SO PISSED … They ended the show with I’m pregnant..! There was so much they didn’t show us I love the show I’ve watched every season 3 times but this was very disappointing…. I’m so upset I’ve wasted my time even watching the new episodes…. I like them but HATE the way they ended soooooooooo disappointed

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