This episode, like others in Gilmore Girls, has a subtle theme built into it. I’d like to say that theme is about moving on. In ‘I’m Ok, You’re Ok,’ we contrast three different relationships all in stages of “moving on”: Mrs. Kim & Zack/Lane, Luke & Lorelai and Rory & Logan.
In the case of the Kim drama, Lane has accepted Zack’s proposal, but Mrs. Kim doesn’t know anything yet. Zack goes to tell Mrs. Kim – and, though she’s initially put off, Mrs. Kim does not throw him out. Instead, she helps him plan his music career. This is a huge step for her, after the life she’d wanted for Lane is clearly falling apart. Mrs. Kim is getting over her own prejudices and lost dreams – she’s moving on and realizing how to just support Lane.
With Logan & Rory, Logan persuades Rory to believe he didn’t cheat on her. She says ‘I guess’, but you can tell her heart isn’t ready to believe or to forgive Logan. So she hasn’t moved on, though clearly she wishes she could.
And lastly, with Luke & Lorelai, we see a different kind of “moving on” in their future. Lorelai is very hurt by Luke’s distancing in their relationship, though she’s trying her best to be understanding. She’s especially hurt when Luke lets Anna give him a new bag, when he told Lorelai not to get him one. It makes Lorelai feel like an outsider even more.
It’s clear that neither Rory nor Lorelai are ok. Yet neither are willing to admit it to themselves yet. Why do you think this is?
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I love that picture. It made me laugh (and I’m having a very bad day), so uh…thanks.
I always thought the writers blew it badly by not having more of Lane and her mom interacting with Rory and Lorelai in seasons 6 and 7. Their natural chemistry and comic relief were always appealing. The wedding and baby-shower / delivery episodes were major highlights in the last two seasons.
I’m sorry to repeat myself but as far as things happening in season 6 I don’t even try to understand why such and such thing happened and why we had such and such reaction.
For me it was just a total mess, caused by the writers and none of it made any sense to me…
And mcityrk, I agree with you. When the Kims and the Gilmores interacted in the previous seasons, that was something!
Does Mrs kim remind anyone else of Emily?
Suzi, do you remember in the first season, in Emily in Wonderland, when Emily goes to Kim’s Antiques? Emily and Mrs. Kim have a rapid-fire haggling session over an item, and afterward Emily remarks that she likes Mrs. Kim — probably because they ARE so similar! Neither of them will take any crap from anyone.
However, I think Lorelai sees more hope for Mrs. Kim than for Emily, because she really tries to help Mrs. Kim be there for her daughter, as in the episode where Mrs. Kim sees Lane’s apartment for the first time (Last Week Fights, This Week Tights), and Lorelai tells her to think of Zach and Brian as girls. The scene where Mrs. Kim goes back and talks her way through her second entrance into the apartment (“you are girls”) is one of my favorite scenes of the entire series.
So Emily and Mrs. Kim are very set in their ways, but Mrs. Kim tries harder with Lane –maybe because Mrs. Kim also had to hide things under the floorboards from her own mother!
RaeDae – you make a very good point – I also loved that episode. I see what you mean about mrs kim being a more soft hearted version of emily – she tends not to hold lanes mistakes (or what she sees as her mistakes) against her unlike emilly who loved to rub it in. I found it histerical when we found out she had hiden religion from her mom firstly because it means she is more like lane than we ever realised and secondly religion seemed like a funny thing to be rebellious about.